Stars, Stripes, and School Policy: When Values Conflict, Who Should Have the Final Say—Parents or Educators?
At a school board meeting in a town where everyone knows the color of the football field’s bleachers, I watched two neighbors argue about a library book neither of them had read. One was worried her fourth grader would stumble into ideas he wasn’t ready for. The other, a retired social studies teacher, talked about a student he’d once had who found, in a book, the language he needed to ask for help. Both people cared. Both wanted the school to do right by children. And neit
Who Decides Which Flags Are Acceptable A Look At School Policies
Walk into any American school and you can read the culture from the walls. A United States flag in the front of a classroom. A student’s backpack with a Pride pin. A poster with the state flag next to the school mascot. Last season I visited three districts in one month. In the first, a teacher had quietly taken down a small rainbow flag after parent complaints. In the second, a principal removed every non‑official banner from hallways after a fight over a Thin Blue Line st
Supporting the Military: What Flying the American Flag Means to Me
The flag outside my house snaps in the high plains wind like a sail eager for open water. Some mornings I catch it glowing with that first slant of sun, the red so rich it looks wet, the blue almost purple. I have raised it in rain squalls and in powdery snow, during quiet Tuesdays and on the loudest of July nights. It started as a simple ritual. It became a promise. I grew up watching a neighbor, a Vietnam veteran with a limp and a grin, raise his flag at dawn with a ca
Supporting the Military: What Flying the American Flag Means to Me
The flag outside my house snaps in the high plains wind like a sail eager for open water. Some mornings I catch it glowing with that first slant of sun, the red so rich it looks wet, the blue almost purple. I have raised it in rain squalls and in powdery snow, during quiet Tuesdays and on the loudest of July nights. It started as a simple ritual. It became a promise. I grew up watching a neighbor, a Vietnam veteran with a limp and a grin, raise his flag at dawn with a ca
Protecting Students or Policing Patriotism? The US Flag at School
A few Septembers ago, a high school administrator in a midwestern district asked for help with what sounded like a small thing. A student had started wearing a large American flag as a cape during spirit week. It was drawing attention, then pushback. A teacher worried about escalating politics in class. A parent praised the student for pride. Another called the principal to ask why a flag was allowed when the school had turned down a request to display another symbol two mo
Raising the Stars and Stripes: Patriotism, Pride, and Freedom at Home
The first flag I raised at my home was a gift from a neighbor who had served two tours in Afghanistan. It came with a story about dust storms, diesel fumes, and the stillness of early morning when the flag went up each day on base. He handed it to me folded, edges crisp, cotton slightly faded. That first lift of the halyard, the line singing through the pulley, felt less like decorating a house and more like adding a heartbeat. The backyard wasn’t just a patch of grass afte
Gatekeeping the Red, White, and Blue: Should Parents Have More Control Over What Their Children Are Exposed to in School?
A few years ago I sat in a crowded cafeteria for a curriculum night that felt more like a town hall. On one side, parents worried about a new social studies unit they thought leaned too hard into guilt and grievance. On the other, teachers who had spent months designing lessons to help students analyze primary sources and wrestle with the complexity of our country. Everyone cared about kids learning the truth. They disagreed on method and emphasis. The hum in the room was n
Are We Building Unity—or Dividing It—By Regulating the USA Flag?
A few springs ago, a high school principal I know faced a storm over a 3-by-5 American flag draped on the back of a student’s pickup. After a minor confrontation in the parking lot, the administration met to decide what to do. They could have de-escalated with conversation and a reminder about safe driving. Instead, counsel advised a blanket rule: no flags on vehicles, period. It felt tidy on paper. In practice, it punished the kids who had never been the problem, and it ta